Today May 10th is Mother´s day in Mexico. Its always celebrated on this date, instead of the 2nd Sunday of May.
We are a very Mother centric culture. Today practically the city stops to celebrate mothers. The cementeries are filled with visitors, large families gather around the grandmother, restaurant´s packed to capacity, etc. Its really huge and a day that a woman like me dreads.
This is my very first Mother´s day in which I can say I am a mother, but to most of the world I am still childless.
Most close people to us that know we lost a baby do not know how to behave around me today. Most remain silent. Its a hard topic to bring up.
I never met my baby, but I know in my heart he is with us. Our angel Miguel, named after st. Michael.
Today I got the very best Mother´s gift from the most unexpected person.
We have a cleaning lady that comes three times a week to our house. She is around 35, a mother of 2, a devout Catholic (she is always decorating my house with the stamps and statues she finds and always placing them in the most important places of the house. For example the one sent to us by JBTC is sitting today on the fireplace with flowers), loves plants and nature.
My orchids after she came to us have always been blooming. She talks to them, sings and worries when they are sad. One day she took some tomato seeds and planted them in a large pot. We have now tons of tomatoes in our garden.
She did not get to study after 7th grade, she comes from an area of the country that is very poor, very indian and very close to the earth and the seasons. Women there get pregnant very young or start working without fininshing their studies.
She had to start working at 15. She works extremely hard so she can give her 2 children the chance she did not get. She slowly has become part of our family.
Today she arrives and I tell her I had forgotten to tell her she had half a day off so she can celebrate Mother´s day with her 2 children.
I am home trying not to get sick from the flu. My DH is quite sick and also I dread going out today.
She smiles at me and asks me if she can give me hug.
She says she wants to congratulate me on Mother´s day.
She comes over and my eyes water. She hugs me, she is barely 4 feet 9 and I am 5 feet 7. We make quite a picture.
She tells me : Happy mother´s day to you Señora. She remembers.
She tells me that I am a mother with an angel in heaven so I need to celebrate.
No need to say more. I remind her my baby´s name is Miguel , she smiles and says of course. An angel.
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