Today I called our adoption agency to be put on the waiting list to adopt once more. This means that in as little as a year (most probably 1.5 to 2 ) we could be parents again.
Its so exciting and more so after being yesterday to the Basilica of Guadalupe to give Her thanks for our son. I still remember being there many times begging, pleading, crying to Our Lady asking for Her help and intercession so we could be parents. And there we were several years later with our son in our arms thanks clearly to Her.
The law here states that you can adopt again when the baby is 2 years of age and Josemaria just turned 1 and we can get on the waiting list for the paperwork and then take during the next year all the courses needed for this. Once he is 2 the agency can grant us the permission to adopt again and then its only time to wait for the baby destined for us. (the agency assigns babies using prayer and physical characteristics. In our case almost like a miracle Josemaria truly looks like my DH and specially my father in law. We have a picture from him as a baby and you cannot tell them apart)
Our agency is Catholic and they are extremely worried about what they are seeing in the couples coming to them so they have implemented many new courses for first time and second time parents. Just for example in our class one couple had 18 frozen embryos and she spoke of them as little eskimos.
Rampant use of IVF, no idea about what it entails, lack of basic religious preparation and much more , so they are very concerned about the families where they are placing the children. Although the criteria to be accepted by the government is very strict it does not ask for any of this, so the agency has taken matters into their own hands making these courses mandatory.
We not only need to attend a 3 day weekend intensive course for repeat adoptions (how to handle siblings, the challenges of telling the baby about its history, etc) even after taking 12 sessions over 4 months on adoption last year and reading many, many books, but they have also made mandatory bioethics (yep, so people understand what not to do and can start explaining to others what IVF and such really mean) and cathecism. From what I understand its over 4 or 5 months of once a week courses at night lasting over 3 to 4 hours each.
Its very exciting to be on the path towards adoption again, yet somewhat overwhelming. Courses, paperwork, the wait....
We know that its the most wonderful thing we have ever been through and Josemaria is worth all of this and more, but all the paperwork that we will need to have and also all the new courses that we need to take will be a lot with now a baby and work, plus FertilityCare (and my own medical treatment since we want to leave this door open as our hearts still tell us to do).
I am starting to prepare myself mentally and focus on the end result, that we could be parents once more.
The wait has also extended due to a very, very sad reality. Normally it was a year from the time you received the paper work to the time you were assigned a baby, but now is has extended to 1.5 to 2 years. Fewer mothers and babies are arriving at our agency, yet the waiting list for IF couples grows each day. Many beds are not being used.
This is because abortion is now available legally in Mexico city (the 5 year anniversary has passed recently and over 70 K abortions have taken place here). Most states are still closed to abortion, yet is slowly making its way into the main cities. US private clinics funded by PP and Mary Stoopes and the such have had a field day here and continue to expand. More and more babies are dying and less are coming to be saved to our agency.
It makes me sick to the stomach and every time I think about it I need to go and hug Josemaria tightly. We need to start praying for our future son or daughter now so she/him can be saved from this.
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